Whenever we start thinking of making fresh starts, we prepare lists of short term goals to do. And most of us (9 out of 10 people) end up not fulfilling our resolutions.
So I thought about writing 3 tips that will help you make you stick to your vision. And here they are:
1. Use systems instead of goals
This great tip was given by Scott Adams, the creator of the famous cartoon Dilbert. No, he did not give it to me personally, but I was reading his book in which he gives some great advice about failing your way to win big in the long run. Quoting Scott, “Goals are for losers”, and he explains it wonderfully in the book as well.
The best example herein is that the first new years resolution that most people will think of will be of going to the gym or losing weight. And the resolution is essentially a goal, we set a number, 5 kilos in the first month, or something similar. The problem with this approach is that you are conditioning your mind to do something you do not wish to do. This will require willpower in the long run. You always have a feeling that will wear on you that you might fail, or you have to keep trying till you achieve the goal. This approach makes the goal a distant dream and keeps wearing you out over time. Hence you are more likely not to succeed. And on the other end as well, even if you succeed, you feel great and do not think about re-doing the same goal again since it took you a long time to achieve this one.
The other approach is to form a system. You decide that you will exercise 15 minutes every day from today onwards and you keep doing that. Also, eating right is another system. All you are doing is creating a system, a habit. This sounds monotonous, routines can sound so, but in the long run, they are better than a reach the goal and be done with it situation. You do not set reasonable expectations and there are no deadlines. All you do is keep crawling towards getting into the habit of repeating it every day and making it a part of your daily routine.
2. Do not be hard on yourself if you fail once
This came out of personal experience and a few readings off the internet. Usually, whenever we fail at doing something for the first time, we decide to do it with some extra efforts the next time. So if I planned to do 10 push-ups every day, and I skipped them on a day, I will try and compensate for them by doing 20 the next day. This should not be the approach to systems. You should not put in the extra efforts and stick to 10 every day. Failing on a few occasions is okay, nobody gets into the schedule of doing everything every day. Just make sure that you keep following your system and do the 10 push-ups the next day again, not 20. This can be applied to a wide variety of fields. And doing 10 push ups every day is also like a goal for every day. Doing physical exercise daily or eating healthy food would be a system. By following this tip, you simply do not exhaust yourself of the energy and motivation to follow the system and overall, the outcome will be a better mindset that gets thinking in terms of consistent systems. You have to be able to feel good about your efforts, and not make it a punishment for your own self.
3. Keep a track of your progress
This one is an important as well. Once you have the data, you can analyze what you are doing correctly, and what is falling short. This all can happen only once you keep track of what you have accomplished, on an average, on all days. There is a reason why analytics is a very big part of the technology industry. Since you can track everything, you can analyze what is going in the right direction and what all is not. This helps in creating better execution plans and strategically eliminating risks. So you should have a rough idea of how much time you are dedicating to a system and how much you are gaining out of it, the expense, the outcome and how you can improve the efficiency. These obviously kick in once you have a system in place.
Summing it up
I personally was not in favor of having a designated schedule of what to do at what time during the day. And I found this idea to be something that I could implement. But I thought of trying it since the points mentioned were valid according to me and setting a goal also brought boredom along with it and hence ultimately I had to try something different. So, I started with a system of reading a book during the lunch time which was some free time I could spare. I did not target finishing “x” number of books or anything. The plan all along was to create a system. I finished the book using this system without having to re-think that I was doing something which I was not used to. And that was sufficient proof that systems could be helpful. I modified my systems to be a bit flexible. I decided to read, it could be anything, a book, blog or something interesting. If on a day, I could not read anything, I read during lunch the next day. I did not try to compensate for the lost day by reading more at some other point of the day. The system was to read. And once I was in a habit, I started keeping track of the knowledge I was gaining. Similarly, I am trying to get in a few other systems as well.
So I hope these 3 tips help you in succeeding in the systems you create. I am curious as to which system you are going to try out? Let me know in the comments section. Who knows you might find someone who is going to follow a similar system and we all get to learn a few tips or even get someone to follow the same path!